1rst draft of research paper 2

Shamoon Baba

Eng 101.0800

Magdalene Bogacka

Recognition of the efforts of the black man in child growth and development

           

Whiles scanning through Coltrane’s Fathering: Paradoxes, contradiction, and dilemmas, and stumbling upon the acknowledgment of the efforts and participation of black fathers in active child development really sent shock waves of good impressions to my attention. At one point of his reading, he makes a niche of “levels of predictors of fathers’ involvement” in which black men came top of the list of the fathers of other races who participate in child rearing and house work-more so, “Intimate fathers”. One can easily jump into conclusion to think of white men as the ones who should per se possess the “know how” to child growth and development but evidently the black man has put himself on the map with the phenomenal relations they have with their biological offspring as studies have shown. Divorce is not a blocking factor from financial contributions and commitments to the child’s growth and development. And as such, black men have rather challenged this factor amongst others like unemployment and imprisonment. I therefore give a reaffirming support to the earlier point stated by Coltrane on noticed behaviors of black fathers. Mobilizing two backing sources to support my stance, I present the movie “John Q” which exhibits a profound father and son relationship as noted too that fathers in general are more connected to their sons than daughter. The movies will serve as visual support to my position. And with the second source from a book by Michael E Conner “Black fathers: an invisible presence in America”, I advocate for the works of black fathers to be recognized by researchers and academic studies.

 It can be ultimately comprehensible that fathers who work hard –mostly low paying jobs-to provide food and shelter for their family ought to see themselves as a “good fathers” like the reading states.  This can easily be backed with simple logic of why one would spend on another if not for intimate reasons since that person is obviously not running a charity service. As this drama and tears filled movies rolls, a co-resident father (intimate) breaks his back in provision of food and shelter for him and his family. He shares love and responsibilities in the growth and development of their only child to whom unfortunately faces a life threatening surgical transplant. Since the company he worked for had their health insurance policy changed and the pending policy didn’t cover such high bills, the father is faced with the challenge of raising 75,000 dollars to facilitate his son’s surgery or he gets released to go home to await his dead. A vivid display of what a father would do for and with a child is put on show. Looking at how the father and son related like friends and when it was necessary to put his feet down, he did like a father is supposed to. Playing a “double bind” of loving and strict parenting, Denzel expresses the deep seated fatherly love for his son and husband reliability for his wife. This serves as an embedded behavior of typical black males that are not publicized by the media or not being given the adequate support to make others copy from.

PART 2 OF RESEARCH PAPER 2: Update on Annotated Bibliography

SHAMOON BABA

ENG 101.0800

MAGDALENA BOGACKA

ANNOTATED BIBLIOGRAPHY RESEARCH: Recognition of the effort of black men in the lives of their children

John Q. Dir. Nick Cassavetes. Perf.

Denzel Washington, Robert Duvall, Gabriela Oltean. New Line Cinema.2005.Film

After years of working and living on low income wages, an intimate father’s son is face with death if his abnormally growing heart is not changed for a new one. Since the insurance company wouldn’t cover the cost of the surgical transplant, he is faced with the challenge of coming up with the funds for the surgery. Not being able to forfeit the cost of the treatment, he takes charge of the surgery room to ensure the safety of his son

As world widely researched and evaluated of intimate fathers, the basic result of the kind of bond shared between the father and his family becomes unbreakable to the extent that the father/husband is ready to do everything to safe keep his family. This is a man who is very close to his son. Playing the role of father and friend.

Evidently as modern fathering is professing that a father’s involvement can be measured by what he does with and for his child is more important than co-residence. As displayed by the way Denzel and his son projected in this drama filled movie

 Conner Michael E., and Joseph L White “Demographic trends conceal father participation in black community” Black fathers: an invisible presence in America”.2006.Web

This ebook from Conner and White discusses how black men are being disregarded when it comes to fatherly roles in households.Black men are seen as incompetent for the kind of esteem they are supposed to be rated when considering father and son interactions and household work. An advocation for the acknowledgment of the contributions being made by black men in the lives of their children.

Supporting my thesis at its core, black men do very well contribute to the lives of their children and if a serious marriage, their nuclear family. In the case of his child, the black man still goes ahead to be available for his child regardless of the fact that he is not with the child's mother. data have shown, black men have high divorce and unemployment rate. A factor that shouldn't be estimated in evaluating father and son relationship since the basic point is to let the son have an  intimate knowledge of masculinity.

Though engulfed in a history of degradation and socioeconomic suffering, social scientist and researchers tend to deprive black men of some due recognitions like active fathering roles in nuclear and extended households. It might be of great importance for researchers to really broaden their scope of investigations and method of assessment on father and child relation with proper attention paid to the mannerisms of their relation and not the environment nor the literal or primitive perception.

quick write: Fathering Paradoxes Contradiction and Dilemmas by Scott Coltrane

  The emergence of modern families is as a resulted of comptemprary adults being so consumed by career since most marriages don't survive long enough  to sustain a family. Just as female insermination came about making it possible for women to have babies on thier own without the assistance of a man (father), the picture Coltrane has on display extends how men are really getting involved in the upbringing of children where as they want to be closer to thier children as mothers do. Though there might be cultural difference in fathering, but Coltrane makes it clear on how men want to really put out their contradictory best to raise a child; not to be too hard nor too soft but to fit in the middle as both the mother and the father in the "father".

proposal for research # 2

I am looking to paying a close attention to Bordo’s “ Gentleman or Beast, the double bind”. With emphasis on how contradictory one is expected to behave in modern civilization. My special interest will argue about why this suggestion from Boado’s sits well with me. In my first research, I threw more light on the metro/rock sexuality in which I was trying to make a case similar to what Bordo is projecting in her.

My preliminary thesis will be “The good in double bind”. This will dive into how evolution has brought about the growth state in men combining both their soft and hard elements together to introduce a new form of idealism.

I will conjure my sources form the school library and as much as I can get from the internet. I am hoping that personal experiences will be allowed to be paragraphed into the research.

Worst Date

I hooked up with this girl i knew from back in Junior High School. we talked on the phone a few time before we ::agreed on a date after work on a Friday night whenever. i went to pick her up around 7:45pm and got to the restaurant around 8:05pm.
       After about thirty to forty  minutes into our conversation, there comes this other guy I have never seen before in my life, only to be introduced as a cousin to the girl. As pissed as i was, i managed to be constructive about the introduction the prior conversation  I was having with her before the dude showed up. I also kept my composure in order not to be seen vulnerable or weak hearted or minded. Though others might not make a big deal about this but my review to it is that, why wait till the 11th hour to tell me about your cousin coming to join us? Who does that? I didn't make any comments and sunk it in like its normal but as I sat there chewing down the content of my plate, i entertained a lingering thought of not calling her again right after i drop her off.
      True to my words, I've been totally oblivious to her and all about that day the minute I pulled away from the building in which she lived. My conclusion is, I can't work around surprises in dating at least not on the first day. No exceptional second chances.

1st Research Draft

Metro/Rock the masculinity of the Technological Era.

Economies and civilazation has been the basis on which masculinity and . Since the turn of the millennium, men have become more redefined and   more focused on education and its benefits as well as staying physically fit . Specifically for the year 2008, shortly before the recession hit hard, attention to what is worn as well as looks has escalated with the socioeconomics of men

               The June edition has Shia LaBeauf (actor: Wall Street, 2001) on the cover. He wears a white shirt with a grey vest and a contemporary skinny neck tire. The composition of the smart look but lay back attitude looks like that of a casual city bloke with relatively self-consciousness about him. At the almost top right corner where usually the goal or objective of the year is posted. Starting out from the first of four magazines for this essay, the cover sheet has a posting about ways to dress and what is considered cool and appropriate for men of today. It is clear that modern men are more into their looks and body; hence the masculinity objective being metropolitan for this year of the magazine (2008). The pages that are referred from the cover page are exhibitions of rock masculinity even though metropolitan masculinity is the main objective since consistent monthly issues have men in dress and office suits in on the cover page. This June edition here seems to be the one out of four with a frivolous look about the male character on the cover page as compared to the other three. The follow up of the thirty nine pages of “the cloths you need to stay cool” has advertisements which are more related to “rocky” masculinity as Bordo explains in “Beauty, finding the male body” 

CRASHES AND LAUGHS

Title: Wedding Crashers
Director: David Bobkin
Featuring: Vince Vaughn and Owen Wilson
Distributor: New Line Cinema
Year: 2005
Medium: Film

1) How do the main characters behave in the movie toward other male characters Towards female characters? Do you consider their behavior masculine.

•  The main characters, Vaughn and Wilson related to most of the male characters in the movie with courage and confidence taking into account that they penetrated a socially high ranking circle and were able to fit in. proving their masculinity to themselves with the craftiness in their ways. They found ways to impress the female characters with slick talking lines to make them more receptive to their schemes and approaches.

2) Does the movie place more emphasis on the relationship/bond between males or between males and females? Are there any connections between the movie and what David Grazian discusses about males behavior in "The Girl Hunt: Urban Nightlife and Performance of Masculinity as Collective Activity"

• with their Casanova tactics, a resemblance  can be made from the movie with  Grazian's remarks on how boys make preparations before going out to party. From the way Grazian expressed the wing man back-up and various approaches and advances that boys initiate and pursue so was is exhibited here by the two main characters when they finalize the wedding they are crashing and how they make preparation for it.
• I see more light being thrown on the connection of man and woman and more of brotherhood or friendship but considering the big picture, both men were attracted to two sisters and wanted to be with them. The sisters shared a family bond together with their father as the two crashers to their friendship bond.

3) what seems to be the ultimate message of the film?In other words, what ideas about men and masculinity do you, the viewer, walk away with from this film?

I see the movie as sending out a call to men that in order to attain masculine absolution, there is the need to express true love and respect to the women in their lives since they constitute as a part of the focal point of a man.

PARAGRAPH:

         


        A comedy story about two guys who go to weddings uninvited. And with a conning aura, maneuver their way to bed with as many women as they can. Playing wing man for Vaughn(John), Wilson(Jerome) and him would spent time finding wedding announcements in the newspapers and make plans on the kind of crowd and how to penetrate them. They had their fill of women from their wedding crashing till they crashed at a  wedding of a daughter of a politically powerful man(Christoper Walkin).  Expressing their masculinity to themselves, they confidently and courageously swim  in the midst of high ranking social circles with their slick credulous tactics. A bond between friends and family and an insight of an unbreakable love of father and children.A general reflection on how ideal masculinity can be attained by men closely understanding and connecting with the women in their lives.

Work Cited

Wedding crashers, Dir. David Dobkin. Perf.
Vince Vaughn, Owen Wilson, Christopher Walkin, Rachel Mcadams. New Line Cinema, 2005. Film.

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Marable

1.     
The Black man was seen as a beast of burden who works to create a comfortable environment for her and her children. Just another step up from animals

2.      The Black man was oppressed in a way to embrace slavery or the oppressing openly and it was as such that Black soldiers in war gave their lives to protect their white masters.

3.      From his suffering silence form the pain cause by the white masters that is left unsaid, the Blackman fails to show his inner true love and respect for his mother, sister, grandmother and wife. He also fails to show his inner truth self and doesn’t talk about it since already branded.

4.      While white masters favored the Black women because of they performed sexual services to them, the Black man didn’t get any reward for being “manly”, courageous or assertive but for being accommodating

5.      The Black man has been undermined from slavery till to date which has resulted in the socioeconomic instability of the Black community in America. Black men have lost confidence and self-esteem to which they take out on their women most times.

Theroux

1.     
Theroux finds it insulting to be told to be a man because it is literally saying be stupid, unfeeling, obedient and not thinking.

2.      He goes on to disagree with how youths are being subverted into thinking that ideal masculinity is separate from women. This, he explains that gets these youth spending the rest of their life finding women confusing and annoying.

3.      Men in America show their manhood in old fashion ways like killing wild animals, hunting and using pronouncements for a man.

4.      Men are shy to come forth with any profession that is conventionally perceived as a feminine profession with exemplary from a writer profession.

similarities

1.     
Just like the Black man was seen as a beast of burden or a step above animals as Marable says can also be analogized with the mention of American men showing their manhood in the old fashion ways with example of how Norman Maibel will go to show that he is as much monster like the next man in Theroux’s article.

2.      Theroux feels it is insulting for someone to say “be a man.” Which he explains, means to be stupid, unfeeling, obedient, soldierly and not thinking. This, I find at par with how the Blackman was expected to be manly by being stupid, not thinking and obedient and soldierly by the white master.

3.      Just like how Marable explains that Black men should put away his differences and connect to the Black woman for Black communal good, so does Theroux disagree with how youths are being subverted into believing that ideal masculinity is separate from Awomen?

4.      In the nut shell both Theroux and Marable are expressing the same type of masculinities. The story line may differ but basically has a common factor of both the Black men from Marable and the Male from Theroux having the same offence taken by how their masculinity is being perceived but I believe both Marable and Theroux have enough elements in their narration to deem their characters stereotypical.