quick write: Fathering Paradoxes Contradiction and Dilemmas by Scott Coltrane

  The emergence of modern families is as a resulted of comptemprary adults being so consumed by career since most marriages don't survive long enough  to sustain a family. Just as female insermination came about making it possible for women to have babies on thier own without the assistance of a man (father), the picture Coltrane has on display extends how men are really getting involved in the upbringing of children where as they want to be closer to thier children as mothers do. Though there might be cultural difference in fathering, but Coltrane makes it clear on how men want to really put out their contradictory best to raise a child; not to be too hard nor too soft but to fit in the middle as both the mother and the father in the "father".